If you are getting divorced, you may have heard countless horror stories about how contentious and bitter the process can be. You may have heard about seemingly unfair child custody arrangements or long, drawn-out battles in the courtroom. Unfortunately, this is the route that many divorces take.
However, this doesn't have to be the case. If you and your soon-to-be ex are more interested in keeping a divorce as peaceful and amicable as possible, you can pursue a collaborative divorce.
Collaborative divorce is a process that favors cooperation and compromise over contention and arguing. It requires both parties to commit to resolving family legal issues outside of a courtroom. Each person also has an attorney that has made the commitment.
During this process, issues like property division, child custody and spousal support are resolved through negotiation. There is no judge, mediator or other third-party that makes a decision. Rather, it is up to the divorcing parties to figure out what they feel is best.
However, this is not to say that people have to go through this alone. Besides the attorney that each person has, there may also be financial counselors and valuation experts to help with the technical details of the split. This can be especially helpful in high-asset divorces.
Not only can you avoid courtroom disputes and litigation, you can also resolve legal matters in a faster and more cost-effective manner. You can also make the process a little bit easier on yourself as well as your children by focusing on resolutions and not on hurting each other or making each other look bad in front of a judge in an attempt to sway his or her decisions.
If you want to end a marriage but would prefer a fairly peaceful split, you can discuss your goals and the details of your situation with an attorney who can explain more about the collaborative process as well as other types of alternative dispute resolution.